Having confidence in yourself takes you places – it’s nothing to do with ability or knowledge. So when your self-confidence takes a dip, it can have a significant impact on your ability to progress in life. There are, of course, plenty of things that can knock you off track and have an adverse effect on your psyche. But what are they, and how they are trashing your sense of worth?
To get you started, take a look at the following common factors and see if you recognise any of them. Once you know what you are looking for, it can be much easier to find a solution. With a little hard work and help, you should be able to become a more confident person and give yourself a higher chance of success.
One of the most important things to try and fix is the way you view yourself. Without a positive self-image, it’s going to be hard to believe in what you can do and what you have to offer the world. It’s the centre of everything you think about yourself, from your looks to your abilities. You might not like what you see in the mirror, for example, or feel like your successes are just a result of luck.
Sense of non-achievement
Ever feel like you just don’t achieve anything in life? It’s a big factor in harming self-confidence, but there are a few things you can try to beat these blues. Life coach Darren Christopher Rowland suggests trying to take your hopes and dreams, and align them with your values and feelings. Once you get everything working together in harmony, it’s a lot easier to reach your goals. You can also start to focus on the successes in your life that you forget about. Your partner, your children, your home ownership – these are all successes.
You can’t be confident you are succeeding without having a direction to judge yourself against. However, the thing about this course is that it should be fluid, rather than static. Life will throw you many curve balls and the dreams you had at 18 can not be the ones you judge yourself on when you turn 35. Things change: so should your goals, and so should you.
Not recognizing your strengths
Regardless of what you might be feeling, you have many different strengths. It’s important to understand what you do well, and where these strengths lie. It will give you something to work on and allow you to build a foundation where you can flourish. Listen to the positive things other people say about you, and trust what they say. It will make you feel happier about your life.
Fear of failure
Fearing failure means you will never prove to yourself that you can do anything. It can be incredibly restrictive, too. You will become too scared to try anything new or take yourself out of your comfort zone. How can you build your confidence without trying new things? There is a simple solution. Try setting smaller, more achievable goals and break big tasks into little chunks. You will find everything a lot easier to deal with while building your confidence from your small wins. It all adds up, and with a little luck you will soon be taking on bigger challenges.