If you haven’t seen the 1989 movie Shirley Valentine then where have you been! This is the ultimate holiday romance where a middle aged woman, fed up with her 9-5 lifestyle and failed marriage, heads off on a holiday of a lifetime. She falls in love and her whole life changes!
Most of us will have had a holiday fling at some point and enjoyed it for what it was, however with the internet bringing us all closer together and travel being so simple, it is easier, and more common, than ever to find the love of your life in a distant country and what better time to think about it than Valentine’s Day …
So what happens if you do fall in love on the sand? Long distance relationships aren’t very glamorous. Sometimes you can find yourself with months between visits and it’s not easy to stay trusting when social media throws up images of the love of your life having a great time in the sun. The pressures thrown at most couples will be magnified by the distance and an argument that could be solved over breakfast, can end up lasting days when you can’t see each other or read each other. In fact, the tiniest row can lead to a complete breakdown of trust.
Email and texting becomes your main source of communication which can throw up all kinds of drama. How we want a text to sound isn’t always how it is read. Your loved one may innocently make a comment which you then read as something much more insulting so it’s vital you don’t react until you know the facts. Talking on the phone is expensive but there are some great ways to get round this. Whatsapp calls are free and video calls using Skype or other resources are even better. Giving you that face to face contact that all couples need.
As your relationship develops there are lots of things to consider. Would there be any issues if one of you were to move to the other country. In the UK indefinite leave to remain rules are complicated and a long process, made more complicated by the recent Brexit vote. So do some research on this as your relationship grows, just so you know what you are dealing with to be able to share a future.
Of course it’s not all as clinical as we are making it sound. Most countries allow you to visit for months on a visa or, currently in Europe, you can move around freely without one. So make the most of the time you can spend with each other. Maybe take it in turns to head out of country and learn about each other’s culture. Spending a few months a year in sunny Spain or on a Caribbean island sounds worth the wait if it really is love!
So if you are single this year, why don’t you make like Shirley and head off in pursuit of your own Greek God? You never know, it might just change your life forever!